As it becomes increasingly harder to find the one, more single ladies are indulging in physical relationships with relatively fewer consequences; sex is now more casual than ever. The beauty of this situation is its simplicity -- if both sides are sincere going into this, then both will know that it's solely about sex. Using each other in a good way, however, may not be as easy as it sounds because removing all the emotional baggage from sex is hard especially if you started off as friends but potentially...sex with no strings attached can be very enjoyable.
1. “Is it possible to separate your feeling from sex?”
Usually this tends to back fire because one of you is going into this secretly hoping for more, then the problem of dishonesty arises, and that person is probably in for a nasty disappointment when it doesn't play out that way. It may be possible to separate your feelings from sex but if it goes on for too long then any human being is bound to start having feelings for their sex buddy. Keep it short!
2. “Keep you arrangement a secret.”
People are messy by nature. Don’t allow the judgment of others ruin your agreement. One of the keys to being successful friends with benefits agreement is to keep it discreet. Even if you're 100% sure no one would care, do the classy thing and keep it between you and her. Don't brag about the situation to outside friends.
3. “Set the ground rules from the beginning and know when to quit.”
One of you may become jealous if the other person starts dating someone else seriously. It can be very difficult to separate emotions from sex, but if you want to be friends with benefits, that is exactly what you have to steel yourself to do. Decide if one of you meets someone you want to date "seriously" then you should agree to stop having sex. This will set expectations and prevent one of you from being hurt down the line.
4. “Know you are risking your friendship.”
In the worst-case scenario, the blurring of the lines between friend and lover precipitated by being friends with benefits can ruin a friendship. Unfortunately, this is a fairly frequent outcome, because once you've crossed the physical line, the old dynamic between some friends is lost forever.
5. “Could harm your future relationship.”
Hooking up with friends can potentially hurt a future relationships with other women. If your current girlfriend finds out (and somehow, they always do) that you were intimate with one of your female friends, she will instantly become jealous and suspicious of your relationship with your friend/ex-lover.
It is always better to think it through before entering into a sexual relationship with anyone. Take a few proactive steps to make sure that the benefits don’t destroy the relationship.
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