Players, cheaters, narcissists and smooth-talkers. When it comes to behaving badly, it’s up to you to change their game. I will attempt to set the record straight on today’s playing field... In the game of love, its all about going big or staying home... I was always taught...if you want it...then you have to fight for it and if you lose it...then it never belong to you...
I think this life lesson can be applied to love...Today its all about sex games and what have you done for me lately? Femmes will never admit to this but...I have heard this in private conversation.."I can do bad by myself, if she can't help me...then she can just keep stepping".
Same with studs...if we don't find you sexually attractive when we meet you...then you shouldn't take anything that happens between you seriously... I'm going to be perfectly honest...no one falls in love with conversation at first sight...so visual chemistry is very important! From a stud's perspective...if we see someone we want...depending on how bad we want her...will determine how "hard" we chase...
Same with a femme..its the kiss of death, if she ever says..."Let's just be friends"... Fellas don't waste your time...no matter what happens between you...she will always see you that way...
Ladies... "Don't chase a stud!" Honestly, think about it... That game of "chase the stud" will not end...in happily ever after... But, showing a stud you are interested and chasing her...is two different things. This is when its important...to know the rules of the dating game.
Now that I've gotten the foreplay is out of the way, let's get down to the biz - ness... There is no good reason to hate the game. If you don't play, then you can't win! And who in the hell plays by the rules, No one... So, hating the player's behavior...is probably the best bet.
Here are some reasons why you shouldn't hate the game and should put the player on notice:
1. Beware of "NEGGING"
There is one game tactic and it is called the “neg.” Negging is defined as “an ambiguous statement or seemingly accidental insult delivered to a beautiful woman you’ve just met, with the intent of actively demonstrating to her a lack of interest.” The purpose of the neg is to lower a woman’s self-esteem, in order to gain the upper hand in the dating game. That tactic is all about the player...
2. It's Not What You Do, But How You Do It
It’s not the woman that makes the difference, it’s how you deal with the woman that makes the difference between...heartbreak and a mutually beneficial situation... Make sure you get what you need from her, then if you get what you want...its just gravy.
3. Set Some Standards
If she doesn't know what she wants out of life...then she most likely she doesn't know what she wants from a relationship in the future... Goals in life is good and goals in love is "GREAT"...
4. Teasing Done Right is Flirting
She doesn't have to buy the cow but don't let her pimp your milk. Teasing just the right amount will keep her wanting more... A player will actively work to disarm you from any remaining hesitations you may have concerning her ‘bad intentions’. A player knows females enjoy talking about themselves and their feelings (even if this is not directly obvious) – a player will steer you into common areas of interest, the more topical the better. This allows her to get a feel for the person (and to categorise her) and to create synthesis between both of you in the conversation... If she tries to get you in bed on the second date...then and is angry because you want to wait...then she may not be that into you... I'm just saying...
5. Confidence is Key
I have not always been as confident as I should have been but experience is the best teacher... If you don't think you are the shit...then neither will she...so get your self-esteem on...because confidence is very "SEXY"! So always remember...that no one can play you, if you don't allow it!
6. You Are Not #1
The only time he steps up his game is when he is suspicious another male has entered the picture: It’s cool to be chased, but being chased to keep you in his possession is more about satisfying a stud’s ego(s) than working to mend a relationship.
7. Your Relationship Stays the Same
There is no progression in your relationship: If you are doing the same type of activities, having the same type of discussion and arguments month after month, it’s time to re-evaluate. If you are not building or working together in some way towards a goal, congratulations you have a relationship of convenience. Nothing wrong with clinging to what makes you feel snuggly and warm inside but at some point you will want to free yourself from the monotony and establish a relationship of substance, not comfort...
8. Doesn't Show You Off
Your apartment is the only date spot: I understand that not all of us can make it rain on every date, budgeting and saving money is very admirable, however if your dates all take place in your home something’s up. Walks in the park, a trip to the movies, or game night at a friend’s house are all budget friendly dates. If a woman is into you, your house will not be the only chilling spot.
The tips above are all tricks in the player's game box... The dating game itself doesn't require you to play games... The only reason a player decides to game...when she knows you are not the one...awareness of our emotional triggers and self-worth stops a player in their tracks. We can better equip ourselves for decision making when it comes to a relationship...if we are willing to accept some ugly dating truths...
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